Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Sorry Guys but I am going private :-(

After much thought and debate I am going private with this blog. I hate this because I have met some really nice people an example: Garlic Man he is not a follower but a devoted reader. Anyway, I have had it with her snooping and here is the story-

Wyoming, Michigan arrived from blogger.com on "Adventures in Ellis County and the Dollar Store


Me and my hubby met after he got divorced from the ex-wife from hell. She had a long affair with her boss and the marriage ended after she filed for divorce. She always blames me for thier divorce which is so strange since they were divorced before we were married. She has gone so far as to call me a "homewrecker" which is so funny because again they were divorced before we met. I think and yes,this is my opinion. Crawling into bed with another man while still married and then filing for divorce is what ended that marriage. but even that aside THEY WERE DIVORCED WHEN WE MET!


Well, Attila as we will refer to her (by the way I thought that was her name because that is the only name my husband used when referring to her) This will be my last post ever about you!!!!!So anyway, when we were dating she didn't live far from him and one Sat morning I was leaving his house and Attila comes out of nowhere screaming and beating on the window of my truck. This was the first time I ever saw the beast.


I debated on going further with the relationship because as you know I had a sister murdered due to domestic violence and I don't believe in physical violence which is her thing.


I did continue to date him and I am not saying there were not other issues involved but they were totally separate from her. We married after 3 months of dating.


We had planned our wedding and she got wind of the date and so we got married the day before at the house of a dear friend and pastor who just happens to be a police officer in my hometown.


Well she found out after the fact and when we got home she flipped yet again with threats of violence and threats to the kids and harm to her self. We called the cops and they go over to her apartment and guess who ended up in the psych ward?


He has 3 kids and they were school age at the time and one lived with us and the others visited on the weekends and whenever cuz she basically lived around the corner. Well, we had to call the police more than once and she basically continued to be a nut.


She hit my husband in the parking lot of a softball field one day because I was there watching a game my stepdaughter was playing in and she was yelling and screaming blah. blah blah.. this was her way. There a a million incidents such as this.


So one night all the kids are over and we are watching movies and she calls and all hell ensues because of the simple fact that the kids were near me. She comes over to our house and we are out on the porch and she proceeds to grab me and start hitting me. All this in front of her kids! I did not hit back! She hit me in my eye and now I am forever partially blind in this eye. She was arrested. She has never apologized or paid my medical bills for this. She bragged to her kids how she kicked my ass. I don't believe that the fact she resorted to physical violence is something to brag about especially in front of the kids. Small minds must resort to physical violence when they lack maturity.


Like I said, I put up with her bull for alot of years and there are so many times she threw her kids to the the curb or pitted the kids against their Dad and me its unreal.


The relationship between me and my step kids is strained because, I believe of the constant B.S. and I regret that but, if I ever tried to be a part of their life or attend their activities she always started something. So, I made the choice not to go to things like graduations for their sake I didn't want them to have to be embarrassed. It is not that I didn't care or want to be there. I am proud of each of you and despite what ya think I care and wish I could be a postive part of your lives.


I do care about them dearly but I don't think we will ever really have a close relationship. I don't think it is right to make a kid choose or be put in the middle.



I have NEVER done anything to this person. I tried to be civil with her. In fact to tell the truth I only remember only having had one direct conversation with her. She lives in the past and remains angry over things that happened so many years ago that where before my marriage to Critter. I have simply had it. She acts as if she is entitled or something.
I think she reads my blog to find things that she can use against my hubby or the kids who are now grown! I don't know. and frankly I no longer care! but my blog is personal to me and that I do care about.
I tell you of the past and bring it up so I can explain my reasons for going private.


Well, this past May his last child turned 18 and has gone into the service and Attila has moved to Mich. (YES WE ARE SO HAPPY BOUT THAT!) but for some reason the woman reads my blog.


This confuses me. WHY? What is the reason? My life and my thoughts are not her business!!!!!! So, with much regret I am going PRIVATE. I will always allow followers just send me a note and would be happy to link ya up! I will send all my current followers an invitation to follow


This post will remain up for a couple of days and then I will go private Sat mornin.

14 comments:

  1. omg Scrappy...I'm very sorry that you're being put thru this crap by her. It's unreal what lengths people will go to in order to stay in someone else's business. take care :)

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  2. I am sorry to hear this.. Sadly it seems to be happening all over the place... I am glad that I recently found you through Tugboat's blog...

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  3. Thanks Kimber,
    I hope you continue to follow me
    Tawnya,
    I hope ypu continue to follow me. Yes my cuz is insane but, in the good and entaining way
    Welcome to Farm

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  4. She must be related to Cruella. Effin bitch. I'm soo glad that you & hubs are happy and living a fairytale life....with the exception of the Wicked Witch. May a house fall on her.

    Hugs to you, and the wonderful man in your life.

    Please send me a linky. Should I take the link off my site? Or just leave it up?

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  6. Mrs C
    Thank You
    May a pack of 101 dogs bite Cruella in the buttLOL
    I will send you a linky and your fine just leave it up

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  7. What a shame you have had to put up with this bs. I can't blame you for going private. I hope to be able to continue to follow you. You make my days a little brighter when I read what's going on with you and Critter.

    Hang in there. ((((((((((( xo )))))))))))))

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  8. I am sorry your having to go through this BS! Sorry to say but I know from experience... some people never grow up so as my mom would say... "take the high road". I think it is best you go private and keep doing what you do.... be yourself! I check your blog daily to make sure I am keeping up with you and yours! I know we don't talk near enough but I love reading your blog!!
    Love ya cuz
    Janice

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  9. Kim -please link me up so I can follow. I like reading about your barn house and its progress. I'm sorry that you're having to deal with Attila - I know a person like that, and she used to be my friend - she is driving her ex and his new wife crazy! It's such a shame that it's keeping you from being close to the steps. Thanks for stopping by and no, you don't have to worry about being amused even if my husband was not - over his shampooing with Hartz!

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  10. Matt, got ya covered on the link Hope you are doing well :-)

    Hey Jana
    Even if we dont talk every day I stalk ya though all the regular networks LOL and I love ya and yours give em all hugs for me!

    Vicki,
    Got ya on the link
    Sorry, but I busted out laughin when I read what he did. :-O TOOOO FUNNY
    Your right it does put a wedge between the steps and it is so sad.

    PS posting new pics of the house after me blog goes pvt on Sat.

    HAve a great day!

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  11. Hope you'll keep me in the loop. I have to be around when you finally finish the house!

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  12. Some people can't live without conflict and have to blame someone else and you were it. Critter loves you now! You don't have to have her in your life anymore I am sorry that this step is necessary but as you know it is. Keep me in the loop, please.

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  13. dawlin'... she reads your blog because she has no life... and that's her fault...not yours. Apparently she is one of those folks that never takes blame for anything in their life. It's always somebody else's fault.

    be sure to send me the link... cause I'd die without a weekly scrappy and critter fix!

    Texas hugs honey... Dixie

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  14. Dear Scrappy Doo,

    I'm sending you and Critter some positive energy over the internet (Translation: our Sunday school class is praying for you both).

    I'll be in touch by email so you can tell me how to keep in touch.

    Sincerely,
    Garlic Man

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